Have you ever thought about how some people are genuinely nice? You can rely on them, they never brag, and they rarely lie to make themselves look better. And then some people seem very nice, but they really are not. These people are referred to as fake nice people, and If you want to learn how to recognize them, stay with us and we will reveal 10 signs of fake nice people.
1: They are overly excited when they see you.
Fake nice people usually act too excited to see you. You will recognize this easily. Imagine running into your old college friend. You haven’t seen each other for ages. But, he smiles at you widely and embraces you like you are the best friend ever. That is not quite expected, right? Besides usual small talk, he suggests you two make some plans to catch up soon. And you are left feeling bad because it seemed like they care more about your relationship than you do. That was probably the whole point of their little performance.
2: They don’t listen when you talk.
Of course, they will pretend to listen because after all, they are trying to seem nice. But, you will recognize that it is fake because they will be on their phones or even talking to someone else while they are sitting right in front of you. They will also zone out and make some unrelated remark that will clearly show you that they have no idea what you were talking about. There is one exception. If you are talking about them, they will pay attention and try to lead the conversation. But, if you are talking about anything else, don’t expect real attention.
3: They disappear when you need them.
Fake nice people will tell you repeatedly that they are there for you whenever or for whatever you need. But, when the time comes that you really need their help, they will disappear. Disappearing acts are common among fake nice people. They are around when they need something from you, but the minute you need something from them, they bail. And it doesn’t have to be some big favor. Even if it is something simple as picking you up from work because your car broke down, they will let you down.
4: They treat people with power drastically differently.
Fake nice people are actually only nice to people with power and influence. Of course, that also is fake because they will turn their back on them in a minute if those people would lose their influence and power. This happens because fake nice people are likely looking for an easy answer or the easiest route to the top. If the person you are with treats all people who are not in such powerful positions, such as waiters or taxi drivers, with respect, then that person is genuine. They are likely to be warm to everyone around them no matter what kind of position they have in society. But, fake people will be highly polite to those in power so that they could help them when they ask for it, or to get a task done which they cannot do on their own. They are not genuinely nice people; they just act nice when they need something.
5: They pretend not to be upset about things.
Because they only care about the image they present to other people, fake nice people will often pretend that nothing gets them. It’s all part of the plan to make people think they are something they are not. They try hard to appear as though they are above everything and to seem strong, resilient, and rational. Fake nice people will also often say that they never get angry or afraid. That is an obvious lie. Everyone gets mad, afraid, or sad. Fake nice people just have a problem admitting it.
6: They avoid answering questions about themselves.
Fake nice people are all for talking about themselves. But, only about those things that make them seem great. They will tell you many stories about how they traveled the world or helped a lot of people. But, if you try to ask something yourself, they tend to put an extraordinary amount of effort into avoiding answering these questions. They avoid these questions because they don’t want to risk and reveal something they haven’t intended. That could ruin their constant effort to look better than they really are.
7: They gossip a lot.
Fake nice people spend a lot of time talking about other people. Genuine people will express their opinions openly, even when they don’t agree with someone. But, fake people talk behind the backs of others. They don’t reveal what they mean openly because they are afraid of being disliked. After all, they put so much effort into being liked by everyone; they don’t want all that effort to go to waste.
8: They don’t keep their promises.
Fake people make many promises to create a certain impression of themselves. But, they rarely keep their word. They will say yes to everyone because they can’t stand the idea that they might not actually be able to do everything they say they can. They will make it look like they tried hard but they couldn’t please everyone. Don’t be deceived. Genuine people think hard before making a promise and only promise those things they are sure they can deliver. But, fake people promise everything because they are just pretending to care. They usually have no intention of actually doing anything.
9: They are desperate for attention.
Fake nice people are desperate for attention because they need constant validation that other people like and approve of them. They need you to pay attention to all the stories they tell. If you don’t, they realize you are not buying them and they don’t want that to happen. You will recognize this easily because they can be very pushy if you try to ignore them. They will force you to listen to them by repeating what they said or gradually becoming louder and louder until you have to pay attention to them. They also don’t allow anyone to interrupt them and try to continue their story even if everyone else has moved on to another topic.
10: They try too hard to make others like them.
This is maybe one of the most important traits of fake nice people that kind of sums up all the others. Everything fake nice people do has the purpose of making others like them. They really care only about themselves and the image they present to the world. Fake nice people are not willing to put in some real effort to become better, smarter, more accomplished people. They only want to present themselves in a better light so that everyone would have a great opinion about them. And they often overdo it. What sign of fake nice people do you think is easiest to recognize?
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